Online actions can have offline consequences. This is no secret or surprise.

It is, however, easy to forget when caught up in the moment.

Whether it’s adding a comment to a social thread, having your say in a WhatsApp group chat, making a quick purchase, or going somewhere dodgy or where you know you shouldn’t be, it can always have repercussions.

All of us can find ourselves in a situation where we’ve done something we regret online. Because of this, finding a way to consider what could happen back in the 'real world’ is an essential skill.

It could be something small – or embarrassing – like sending the wrong emoji, or messaging someone late and regretting it the next day. It can get a lot more serious in online spaces where things are moving quickly – like in a live stream – where everything can be recorded.

When you press send or join, it can be really hard to rewind. But that isn’t to say you can’t. Remember you do have control of your online spaces – whether it’s deleting a post or taking the nuclear option by closing an account.

You can also find help and additional information about online stuff you’d like to remove in our 'Help and Support' guide.

But of course, prevention is better than a cure. Which leads to three useful habits.

#1 – Take your time

Pause for a moment before you do whatever it is you are about to do. Just a second or two. Whether it’s posting, liking, commenting, or buying that thing you think you want.

What might others think? Could it be taken another way? Can I afford this? Should I be here? You’ll know the right question to ask. Just make sure you’re asking it.

#2 – Control what others see

It’s super simple but often forgotten. You control what others see.

Your privacy settings may generally seem pretty secure, but when was the last time you checked? Privacy policies online do update now and then.

Take 10 minutes once a week to check your settings or read an app’s privacy guidelines – maybe while queuing at the checkout or during a TV ad break. You should have all your accounts secure and up to date in a couple of months.

#3 – Have a spring clean

You can always go back and delete posts or comments. You might see something pop up on your timeline that makes you think, 'ugh, no.' You might have an account you don't want out there any longer.

This isn’t a fix-all: things can always be screenshotted, which is why it’s better to remember #1 – and take your time before posting. But it doesn’t hurt to have a spring clean of your accounts the next time you're spending a few minutes on your phone.

Everyday Digital from Parent Zone builds simple but effective habits that make you feel more confident and in control of whatever your family does online.

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This article was last updated on 04.10.23.